Meet My Natural Hair | Keyda Update

I cannot believe it has been this long since I have posted! It has been so much going on that sometimes I'm not sure if I have time to just BE! I am sure ALL of you know where I am coming from! #queenin #blackgirlmagic So, many hats, so many super women!

Well, I have realized that I have not received a touch-up since July 2014!!!!!! And it was a journey through a long year. In fact, prior to my wedding day, I had a ...

BIG CHOP! Yes, this is not a typo! I cut off the rest of my relaxed ends and am officially all natural! It has been AMAZING! I LOVE MY CURLS and have grown to love my "fro". Honestly, I was very timid about wearing my curls out as I have not seen my hair in curls since middle school. Of course, I  make that face the moment someone goes for my hair (you know which one!) and try to bite my tongue when asked how does my hair curl (normal response.."wash it"). *le sigh* I have learned to own it and walk confidently in my natural hair, so who knows when, if ever, I will get another perm. I still love a good blow out! Although, my last one was for my wedding!

Positives:

• My hair is manageable.. surprisingly.. like really. While the tangles are not always fun, I am definitely more pleased taking them out compared to before. 
• My scalp can breath! It has not been as itchy or irritated in-between my washes. 
• I can literally just ... GO! Like, it's amazing that I can simply fluff and go! :) 
• Confidence. This is not something about my "hair" but what has grown in me since going natural. I have always been a fierce one hehe but now I just feel so much more confident in any style I wear and feel no judgement. 

Negatives:

• Laziness due to the fluffiness. Honestly, I have difficulty changing up my styles and remembering to wash at least 2 times a week. I hope to co-wash more often in-between my full-on wash days. (I need to do better)
• Trimming. I really need to find a method so I will definitely be exploring some of the ways KLP was discussing here. 

I have grown to have a few "go-to" styles that are easy and manageable with my hair. However, as my hair grows, I try to mix it up and I definitely plan on trying Curlformers that KLP raves about! I cannot wait to give them a try! :)

Let me know what you think and how your journey is going!

xoxo
Keyda

What To Do When Your Favorite Relaxed Hair Blogger Goes Natural

Your favorite hair blogger is totally your friend in your head. Y'all share hair secrets. She comes to you when she's frustrated or overwhelmed. You encourage her when she has a setback. Y'all are brutally honest with each other and transparency is the only way that y'all roll.

Then she has the NERVE...

AUDACITY...

LOS COJONES...

To decided to stop relaxing her hair.

How rude?!?

You might feel betrayed. Y'all were supposed to be in this together. Things will get a little awkward for a minute. But before you comment on her "Big chop" or "I'm transitioning" post, remember these 3 tips:

W O O S A H

Just breathe. Remember that it's just hair. And if our goal is to have healthy hair then does it really matter if it's healthy chemically straightened hair or healthy curly hair? We're still in this together rooting for the same outcome.

I T ' S   N O T   P E R S O N A L

Her decision is for her. She's not asking you to follow suit. She's not even asking you to agree. But she is asking for you to respect her decision. There are so many reasons why women stop chemically straightening their hair. Some are as simple as they want a change and others are deeply spiritual, political, or emotional. She loves her readers and of course she's thought about how it would change the content of her blog---yet she still made this choice for herself. After all, hate to say it but---it's kinda not about you. So continue to do you boo!

E N C O U R A G E

This cute little community of healthy hair lovers was totally built on encouragement, support, and positivity. We have enough decisiveness in our world that the way that you choose to style your hair shouldn't be one of them. We can still affirm each other even when our journeys don't exactly mirror each other. 

If we're honest with ourselves, this natural vs relaxed debate is old, tiresome and just plan lame. We have more in common with each other than we have differences.

The same tips apply if your favorite natural hair blogger announces that she's gonna relax her hair too!

Let's give our hair bloggers some love! Link your faves below and list if they are natural, relaxed or somewhere in between!

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